Jacket Forever 21, jeans Joe Fresh, lilac stilettos Heels, cashmere sweater Lord&Taylor from TheBay, cross-body bag Rebecca Minkoff
This post was to start completely differently. While I was writing it I received some bad news about one of my best friend’s mom. It automatically made what I was about to write completely meaningless in relation to the life as a whole. Fashion and clothing are considered to be shallow. They have no deep meaning. From time to time I get comments about wasting my time with fashion and my blog. So I chose not to post anything today.
But as I contemplate about life (your 30s seem to be the time for that), I realize life is what you make of it. Life is about being happy and doing what makes you happy, so that you can make those around you happy. If you don’t fuel yourself, you can’t fuel those around you. Energy is transferrable and I chose that my energy be a positive one.
I know that fashion, this blog, talking to people, inspiring and being inspired makes me happy, it makes me excited. So I keep doing it.
Last night I also had an amazing experience which further emphasizes how clothes, how we dress and fashion in general (which is art in itself) are important in the big scheme of life. Recently I started volunteering for this amazing organization called Dress for Success. One of the things I do there is help style women who are clients of the organizations. These are women from all walks of life who for one reason or the other, need our help. The charity provides outfits for interviews and jobs in order to help women be better off. It isn’t just about women being better off, but in turn their families and their children. And we know children are the future of our society, and happy and healthy children make up a happy society.
So last night was my first appointment. I met this shy, insecure but amazing woman. We spent two hours together. We picked out two beautiful outfits, some shoes, a bag, coat and accessories which will make her ready for the interview. It was an amazing feeling seeing her transform as we tried things out. I listened to her needs, not what she said (she was shy) but I paid close attention to her body language. I saw what made her confident. It was just beautiful to see how her confidence changed in those two hours.
I thought I was happy having been successful finding two full outfits for her. It was a successful meeting after all. But she caught ME off guard at the end of our appointment. This woman of few words opened up and started praising the whole experience. She did not think finding outfits would make her feel good but she said it was an amazing experience. However, what made an impact on me is how happy she was with me and how I made her feel through the whole process. She thanked me for my passion and for my continuous smile. Her last words were: “We may not see each other again, but God sees everything you do. He will bless you.” I started crying (and I am not a crier at all!).
I did not cry because she praised me. Yes, that feels great to all of us. What made me cry is how I made her feel. How my energy impacted her. And this is one of the most important things in my life. How I make those around me feel. I was very concentrated on finding perfect outfits and didn’t think too much about how I was. But I guess when you are doing what you love, what makes you happy, that same happiness is passed onto those around you. It’s contagious. But you have to be open to it too. So just when you think you make an impact on someone’s life, they make an even bigger impact on you.
So though my friend is going through some tough time, and will be for a little while, I also know that she loves following my blog. She’s one of my biggest supporters. So, for the love of her and her happiness, I am sharing this post today. Life has to go on no matter what. Dark times have happy moments too. If we keep loving life, living life and finding beauty in it, no matter what, almost anything is possible and bearable.
So having said all this, please enjoy the outfit. It’s freezing outside so it was shot inside. Thanks sis!
An my friend, this one is for you, and you know who you are <3